Selfish, Close minded, and Judgmental

I have been called these three words repeatedly, and what it always boils down to is “do what I want”, “don’t disagree with me”, and “don’t hold me responsible for my actions and beliefs”.

If by selfish you mean hedonistic, with no capacity for empathy, then no I am not selfish. However, if by selfish you mean I have self respect, and I don’t owe you anything simply because you exist, then yes I am selfish

If by close minded you mean that I am not open to new ideas or evidence, that I hold my beliefs despite well reason arguments, then I wouldn’t consider myself close minded, I try to be reasonable and self honest. However if what you mean by close minded is that I take the truth seriously, then yes I am close minded.

If by judgmental, you mean I hold people up to unrealistic standards, and throw irrational judgments, then no I would not consider my self judgmental (correct me if I am wrong of course). However if by judgmental you mean I believe that respect is not something to be given to someone simply because they breath, and that people are responsible for their actions, then yes I am judgmental.

I am not here to agree with everyone, and respect them no matter what it is they say or do. Yes, I could be wrong, but that is a risk we all have to take, and that is why we need to be as self honest and responsible as we can.

Am I calling you selfish because you want me to do something I don’t want do? No. Am I calling you close minded because you disagree with me? No. Am I calling you judgmental because you are judging me for being “judgmental”.  I could use every single one of these “arguments” against you simply for using them on me, but I do not because these are not arguments, they are circular, simple minded insults.

Lets stick to arguments rather then adjectives.