Concerning Stereotypes of Women

This is dedicated to my wonderful girlfriend Chay. Who continually inspires and supports me.

All my life it has been driven into my head what a woman is and what she is like. I have always been told this as if it is an absolute truth.  Then of course it is always fallowed by some warm hearted but resentful phrase such as "oh women, can live with em, can't live with out em". But as I started to go out in the world and meet women these stereotypes didn't necessarily seem to be true.  Some women I met were very emotional, some where not. Some were very kind hearted and some where not. Some where very independent and some where not, and so on, I am sure we have all heard these stereotypes.

I have a little theory that applies to both men and women but sense I am a man and I am attracted to women I have made that my focus.

It is my belief that most men that complain about "the way women are" are the same men that make it a point to date a "hot" girl or perhaps a better way to describe it, a girl that meets up with cultural standards of attractiveness.  Don't you think its safe to say that if a girl makes it point to be at the cultural standard for attractiveness then it is also very likely that would do the same with her personality? I think it would be safe to guess that most people are not only trying to meet a cultural standard of appearance but a cultural standard of every kind. Of course this is where we get religion and patriotism and all that nonsense. The definition of who is "hot" who is "patriotic" and who is "a good religious guy" is really just an extension of this joke we call culture.

Don't get me wrong, I do invest time in my appearance in order to have a more pleasant social life as I am sure all of us do to an extent.  And I definitely think there is something to the idea that how you dress can communicate who you are.  My point is not that we should all stop cleaning our selves, buzz our hair and stop wearing clothing but rather that, if you are attracted to mediocrity, conformity, and cultural standards then that is exactly what you will get.  Not just in physical appearance, but on every level.  You will probably find a religious girl, who loves her country, is physically attractive, sweet tender and emotion, maybe a little illogical but ya know only in that kinda cute submissive way, and wants to be a homemaker.

If that's what you want then congrats, its not that hard to find. And you will probably have a nice mediocre relationship, raise pretty mediocre kids and have a pretty average experience in general.

How ever this is not what I am looking for, and not what I have found in my own life.